Worry Pretends to be Necessary
Have you heard the expression “Worry pretends to be necessary”.
When I first heard it, I loved it.
It felt so freeing.
I don’t like to worry.
But I do worry sometimes.
I often felt like I had to say I was worried to be “normal”.
I had to worry about my kids’ social life, their grades, their future.
If I didn’t worry, it meant I didn’t care. I didn’t love them enough.
Other mothers worry more so they are better mothers.
I must be a bad mother if I don’t worry.
How freeing it was to let worry go.
Worry wants to feel important, but it was just sucking up my time and energy.
Worry is optional.
Sometimes I do like to indulge in worry. It’s an old habit. Like comfort food.
But I now know it is my choice, and what I make it mean is my choice too.
I can choose worry, or I can choose not to worry.
It doesn’t define me., Not does it define my love for others.I can love you and never worry one minute about you.